eliah’s post

Am I gay? Am I bi? Who I really am? Please Monsters help me.

I don't know who I am, who I want to be. I'm 15 but I've never been engaged with anyone (girls or boys) so I don't know anything about what I want. But last month, during a study holiday in England, I met a guy 1 year older than me and I think I am interested in him. The problem is that I don't know if he's gay or not how I supposed.. During all the holiday he never got around with a girl or a boy, he was lonely, but really friendly and nice. I talked with him quite often and he always was available to talk with me, but we never talked about relationships or sexuality so I don't know if he's gay or not. I think I am interested in him because now that we came back at our own homes I miss him! I can't see him again (and find something more about him) because we live really far from each other (I live in the north Italy and he in the middle-south).. I could text him on Facebook but i can't ask for him there if he is gay or not! How can I ask it to him?? Please Monsters, help me.. I really feel bad

Weslley Alves@phantomhive 11y

About the boy you met, the only way is asking. If you do not want to seem unkind, ask when a neutral or fun time. (A good tip is talking about gay issues, such as speaking of Gaga or some pop singer [Believe me, when you say that like Gaga, people begin to consider you gay ] (I'm not being judgmental, I'm just talking truth). Kisses, my brother. That all doubts are resolved, I love you.

I could say so much to you, but I gotta be honest with myself and say that I really do (What the case is to ignore all the comments that are actually very good. Enjoy over fifteen years of age and not caring sexuality). I do not want you to use my advice as an example or you think I'm being annoying or rude, I really do not want to say what you should or should not do, because you are old enough to know what is really good for age do you. About sexuality, you'll only really know when to start sexual relations with other people and when you do this, do not hurry and be honest with the person saying that you are inexperienced because then you'll be more relaxed (I'm not speaking in relation to sex, but in relation to kisses).

SonOfAphrodite@fabigaga97 11y

don't get into a hurry! Your only 15. There is so many time left to find out who you really are. Enjoy beeing 15 and live your life to the fullest! But if you really think you are in love with this boy, than just start a conversation...talk about anything else! And if you feel ready, just ask xD I know it's not easy, but it's just the thing you have to do! (I often write "don't get me wrong, but can I ask you something? are you gay?) loool, it may sound rude at the first, but if you don't ask, you never gonna know ;) if you eed anything else, just let me know, my messageboard is always open ^^ Wish you the best! <3

davespride44@davepride44 11y

if he is that far away it just won't work so I wouldn't worry about him. and also don't worry about having a label you will know what you are when your heart tells you. right now enjoy being 15 be happy the rest will fall into place promise. Paws up little Monster!!