davidforever98’s post

I really need some help :/

Two days ago, I went to watch theater with my mother and my brothers..There was a gay actor playing there and they were all laughing (except of my mother who knows that I am gay)..Then when we were driving back home my brothers were saying things like "gays must die,they are disgusting"etc.. And I was really sad..They made me feel like I don't belong in that family.I decided to leave the house.. I know that it is really stupid but I couldn't stand this situation anymore.. I felt really confused.. I left during the night .. I was thinking to build a new life from the beginning.. After some hours I decided to go back home because my mother would be really sad and stressed..So I did it... My mother looked really happy that I came back home but my brothers were staring at me with hate... The next morning,my mother was out for shopping ,my brothers came to me and started insulting me ,saying things like "you are the worst person I know,you are a dick,i hate you".Since then ,things like that happen all the time. They really hate me now.....I feel like I have to leave this family but without making my mother worried because if I don't leave I will be really sad :/ Why do people hate gays so much? It's not my fault that I was born gay.. It just happens some times... What should I do? Thanks for reading

Myriam V@myriamv 11y

omg.baby

EJ_Luran@ej98art 11y

wish you the best... i understand you my family it's happening the same, but i hadn't tell them that i've come out [[lm.heart]] [[menholdinghands]] <3 <3 [[menholdinghands]] [[lm.heart]] UNFORTUNALY.. they were born their way :'(

Phillip Joshua Bibat@philzterhooker 11y

That's just wrong. I mean your family are the people who are supposed to love you no matter what. I think it's wrong in so many levels. You're right you didn't choose to be gay. You were born that way. Be strong. You got you're mom and I'm sure you're brothers will come round soon. I mean you are a family after all. You also got us monster family. Be proud of who you are cause I'm very proud of you.

farhad†amin@farhadgaga 11y

plz don't feel sad. :'(

cole hutchin@cole100 11y

I came out to my mom today. Its hard but you have to know that we all have a purpose in life even if we don't know what it is yet. so stay strong and know there are people that love and care about you. you can message me anytime I am here for you. don't worry things will get better. I watch some of lady gagas speeches and they really help me out a lot. nothing is wrong with you you still are the same person nothing to feel bad or weird about. :)

Alexxa@alexxamitchell 11y

I'm sorry that you have to go through this but there are tons and tons and tons of people out there who will love and support you. People hate what they don't understand, hopefully they'll come around. Meanwhile, we're all here for you.

joannefreak@gagawinehouse 11y

Like mother said as long as you're beautiful on the inside

rachael@rachael018 11y

Sweety. There are heaps of ppl around the world having really big problems coz of their sexuality. I for one get bullied at work coz I'm gay an the only girl around 80 men. It's horrible and I am so sad for you. I hope you are okay. You are normal in our eyes a we love you xox

lady gaga @yuyisreal 11y

First of all you should talk to your mother tell her about how your brothers treat you and tell her that you want to leave the house talk it out with her and tell her to talk to them. I'm sure she'll find a solution for you. [[lm.pawsup]]

Eric♥@enric 11y

You have to look for yourself. You can leave your house and start a new life, but only if you are 18+. I'm really sorry for you, I can't imagine what it feels like to be in your place. But you have to be strong at least for your mother. They don't understand, don't pay attention, they are your brothers, your blood, they have to accept you soon or later.

InsaneMonster@insanemonster 11y

Stay strong little monster, lots of people are confused with 'gays' but here we understand you, this may be hard but please do not let them get to you, be brave and stay strong love you monster <3 x x message me on kik if you need Username : Insanebrooke

cdmoneyy@carlosd 11y

I think you should tell your brothers then. Maybe if they knew they would be more sensitive to you and to others around them when those sort of things come up. I know I used to be like that all of the time until one of my cousins that I love very much came out. I am more understanding now and even if I don't like something I am still able to respect others

Meg@littlemonster70 11y

I'm sorry this is going on. But I would just like to say that my brothers and sister and even my mother were the same way until I came out. Now they even tell their friends to stop putting down the gay community and really support me. I know it's hard but we just can't be silent. you don't even have to come out just start saying things along the lines hey you shouldn't talk about the gay community like that because what if it were you? this helped my siblings understand better. It's scary but if we don't fight, who will. We're brave together monster so fight the fear and the ignorance without apology for who you are <3

BoyishSmiles@boyishsmiles 11y

I'm assuming this of course, so it may take a while for them to come to terms with it. But the last thing I want to tell you is that sometimes you just have to let some people go, even your family. But don't ever let someone tell you that you are wrong. It may seem hopeless at your home but there is a whole community out there willing to support and help you. Remember, family is all ways by blood, its who you love with your heart and who loves you for you and with all of their heart

SusanAW@susanaw 11y

First know that there is nothing wrong with being gay, but that doesn't mean that all people feel this way, so sometimes things can be hard. As soon as you are old enough work toward getting your own place if your brothers are still living at home. You and your mom can always visit. Know and believe that there is nothing wrong with you. Always be your best protector and champion. Be kind to yourself during these times. Spend most of your time with good friends and enjoying things you love most. Recharge yourself with all positive things outside of your home to balance the negative. This will not last forever although I know it feels like it sometimes. Hang in there and know that we are all sending love and positive thoughts your way! Remember, you are perfect the way you are! :)

I'm in a similar situation as you. My little brother is completely apathetic of my existence, but occasionally becomes very hateful towards me. Everyone knows in my family that I am gay, but its kind of like a dirty family secret; nobody ever speaks of it, and if something is bothering me according to my sexuality, I have to deal with it on my own. My advice to you, David, is to stay at home with your mother (so she won't have to suffer from your departure because she really does love you) but withdraw from your brothers and learn about yourself and who you are. Once you have become confident in who you are (and it won't be easy I still haven't yet) then you can try talking to them. Now I'm not gibing them an excuse, but if it took you a while to come to terms about yourself

† GleanMonster †@angelmaciel1997 11y

How old are you? If you are 18, then you can legally leave the house. To start the life you want. You have to talk with your mother that you cant stay in the hosue because of your brothers hate towards you. She must understand. But you can go visit her or she can visit you . But if your not old enough. Im sorry to say your just going to have to deal with it for now honey.... Maybe you could try to talk with them of why they hate you so much and explain why you left and maybe they may or may not open their minds. If your mothers truely loves you. She will protect you from your brothers if they intent any harm because usuallly violence is after pure hate. You must for now be well educated to free yourself from a life you dont want. which is the one you say you want to not live and restar.

Chris Mugler@chrismugler 11y

You have to be strong and be brave babe. Don´t worry about anyone else, focus on stay healthy, get into college and one day they will never you born this way and you born to be a f*cking superstar. You my complete support, if you want to talk, send me a message and I'll be there for ü. [[lm.applause]] <3 #MonsterLove

popcultureartpop@popcultureartpop 11y

Sometimes, i feel like you.

Gerald Hubert@popatemyart 11y

Sorry to hear about the brothers , David. I think they will come around eventually. Mom is the best!