Asking her to stop smoking is NOT the same as judging her to be a bad person- especially with all the diseases/health risks and deaths caused from smoking. We are simply asking her to save her life, so she lives longer and so we continue to enjoy the precious time we have with her.
I'm worried about her too, but this could be a harmless fake or electronic cigarette. Also, how could she smoke with the SNL staff around her? The building must have regulations.