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Sharnae Buenen
Sharnae Buenen @flublaishy

WHY CAN'T I BE WHO I WANT TO BE!?

When I leave school I want to go to Tafe and do a Diploma in Community services and get into a job in Child Protection. But my mum hates it. This is what I really want to do and I just want to make her proud. But she isn't. At first I wanted to become a Police Officer but she talked me out of it. I just want to make her proud, but she's saying she wants me to go to university and would love it if I became some fancy Lawyer. The truth is I am not smart enough for University. All she's thinking of is the money and a high paying career. I DON'T GIVE A FUCK about money!
Monika @monikakrzewska
Monika
trust me helping people as a job is an amaizing thing,"they"need someone like you...
Sierra DollBaby@sierrapretty
Sierra DollBaby
at the end of the day it is your future and you should be able to do what is in your heart. at least you hve a plan for what you want to do with your life and you should always do what you are passionate about....but still respect your mom and maybe she will understand that being a lawyer is not what you want to do. have you told her this??
Sarah Carolann McCleskey@sarahmccleskey1
Sarah Carolann McCleskey
Sharnae, keep looking below and reloading posts, you have so many comments. I'm in there somewhere. It's not about me, just want you to read mine and enjoy all the comments. Excellent, most private topic for discussion!
Luc@xluc
Luc
Tell her that you want to be happy, and follow your own rainbow which is life, ending in the luckiness and hapiness of Leprechauns, just do whatever you want to do. Truth is, your parents will always be proud as long as you're proud of yourself, even though they might not show it.
BornThisWayFameMonster@littlebornthiswayfamemonster28
BornThisWayFameMonster
I am 13 and I would burn all my. Money and kill myself NOW if it ment someone wood be happy !
Lans†er The Mons†er@lansterthemonster
Lans†er The Mons†er
First of all you are smart enough. Second do what makes you happy, don't give into your very over bearing mum. Follow your heart give it a 100 percent and she will see that you are happy and successful and in the end she will be proud. It sounds like she wants to live vicariously through you and fix her personal mistakes by forcing you to do what she wanted to do. Be you. Don't let her control you. Just love her. She'll come around, and if she doesn't then it's her loss.
AlwaysD@alwaysdoofus
AlwaysD
She probably has your best interests at heart but doesn't understand how you feel... could you not meet her half way and do a degree in your chosen subject and then go on to the job you want... e.g. do a degree in child psychology/sociology or something related? That will also better your chances of getting the job. I'm sure you are smart enough for university but you will probably not succeed if you so a subject you're not interested in :)
Hammy@abejm
Hammy
Similar situation here. Mum wants me to become a doctor. But here's the thing: you won't always make them proud. They had a chance to live their life. Now it's up to you to decide who chooses your future.
Brandon Hadwin@brandonhadwin
Brandon Hadwin
you were born this way she cant stop you and when you succeed she will be proud its your life and body and your choice to do so YOUR A FREE BITCH BABY follow your heart do what YOU want to do
Sher Mons†er@sherkurwa
Sher Mons†er
It is your life but your mum loves you. Pursue your dreams but keep in mind your mum only wants what is best for you. Hope that helps <3
Sarah Carolann McCleskey@sarahmccleskey1
Sarah Carolann McCleskey
That typing again!........isn't pushing or bullying you into something that she wants or living her unmet dreams through you. This happens so much. My grad work is in suicide, but I have been with many adolescents that have told me this story. It always pains me. I do hope that everything turns out well for you, Sharnae. Try again to talk with her in a respectful, direct manner. You still need to reinforce that it IS your life not hers. Is some counseling a possible thing? Let us know how you are doing. We care about you as you can see by all the responses. I'll be thinking of you. Take care, be safe.
Sarah Carolann McCleskey@sarahmccleskey1
Sarah Carolann McCleskey
Most parents really want a better like for their children than they had. Taking this into consideration, you are the one who will live it. You need to love what you do for a career choice. No meanness meant, your Mom is pushy you into all the wrong directions and, hopefully, isn't bullyinh
Emily Sherwood@emmuldance
Emily Sherwood
Completely know what you mean, I'm an only child from a single parent family, my world revolved around pleasing my mom and doing everything I could for her to accept me and love me. But once you get out of the house, you become your own person (I did I should say) having a year away was the best choice I made. even if you go undecided what you want to do, you have to ultimately decide on something that is meaningful to you. Something that you're going to wake up in the morning proud of yourself for. We all have faith and support you though. Take your time, there's no time like the present.
Samantha P (sammy_drumm)@sammydrumm
Samantha P (sammy_drumm)
if u want to do something go for it, dont let anyone tell u, u cant.
Samantha P (sammy_drumm)@sammydrumm
Samantha P (sammy_drumm)
my major is CRJ my parents dont want me to do it but thats what im doing!!!
KALiM@kalim
KALiM
If your about to leave school then your now the age when you can do whatever you wanna do. Just do it.
Madeleine Mons♈er@wonderfulmaddie
Madeleine Mons♈er
My advice: do your own thing. Don't give a fuck about what someone thinks
Eihnj@eihnjosun
Eihnj
Firstly, you are smart. Secondly, the job you want is such a great job. It seems the only way to be who you want to be is to ignore your mother. It can be tough, but do not let anybody make you not achieve your dreams.
xLilMonsterx@phattran35175
xLilMonsterx
Similiar here, my mom wants me to become a doctor like her -__- and the thing is.... Im an artistic person, she's not forcing me or pressuring or sth..... But it's just so difficult because she has givin me everything in life, I want to make her proud . She said by being a doctor, people will respect u more,etc but i don't give a damn about it, i want to be doing sth artistic in the furture : a fashion designer. I thought she understood me :(
Max@priceless
Max
There's a positive thing in this, she thinks you're more that what you think so she tries to stimulate you to do something you think you couldn't bear. You can be who you want to be and you have to explain your mum that you don't like what SHE has chosen for you and that you want to get a job where you'd be pleased to work.